"LOVE"

LOVE...There are many kinds of love a person can feel, but the one that puzzles me about us "humans" is the "falling in love one". This puzzles me because being in a relationship is HARD WORK. It's like a job more or less and why is that????

I am 34 & been "in love" 3 times, the 1st two times I ended up getting married and divorced. All this before I was 30. "YEA ME"
So...The 3rd and final time (which is now) I hope I don't ever fall in love again. I will not ever get married to this one that I have been dating for 1 1/2yrs, that is because my last time to be married did a number on me. I do not WANT to ever get married and go through that again.

I don't think I'm suppose to be married anyway. I'm too independent and men just don't know how to handle that.

But...My question is this, WHY if you are in love with someone you think you can feel free to just disrespect them (at times) & be mean to them. Then later on act like everything is O.K. and nothing happened. Just brush whatever was said off (like it really did not count or mean anything). Then whatever brought on the argument will just come back in the future because you ignored what the person was trying to get across to you in the 1st place.
Does that make any since to anyone????? Well...Maybe I'm the one that is looking at this relationship stuff all wrong.

I just thought that if you wanted to be with someone & you loved them, you should try to do everything in your power to make them happy. That is at least what I try to do (not perfect) but I do try. I'm not selfish as some people. I give,give,give and everyone just takes,takes, takes.

How do you stop doing all the giving???
Maybe one day I will figure some of it out...Until then I have to just remember to keep my mouth shut about some things & just except THINGS ARE THE WAY THEY ARE.

Job "friends"???

Friend: 1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
Friendship: 1. the state of being a friend; association as friends: to value a person's friendship.

this word above and the word "love" are the 2 most MISUSED words in the English language by people.

So you start a new job and meet all the "new" people and think to yourself "hey...Maybe I could make some new friends in this place". As time goes on and you get to know these "new" people you begin to find out things about each individual person. In return they get to know you also.

Now...This "getting" to know people at your job can be good & also bad. If you are a person like me, that likes to talk and can talk to a brick wall, this can and infact will be dangerous at some point in your job.
Rule #1: Keep your JOB & HOME separate!!! (this is a must, hard to do, but a must)
Rule #2: If unhappy with job or things in the job, do not talk about this at work.
Rule #3: "TRUST NOONE" (this will bit you in the ass sooner or later)
Rule #4: At the end of the day & you are leaving, make sure you leave the job there & not take it home.

The rules above I have done all of them and that is how I know that it is not a good thing if you choose to do any of it.
I have been out of my office for 8 weeks and only been back going on 3 weeks, I have been trying to change my attitude about certain things at my office. I thought I was doing a good job at it, until yesterday when my boss & I were talking about getting some of my outside salesman back, when she asked me "had I been O.K.", no freaking out or mad outbursts. I said yes...I have been doing good with all that (I thought) but apparently someone has felt the need to latch on to every word that I say. This person (backstabber) has gone right into the V.P.'s office and felt he needed to share. My boss was told that the person said I was complaining. I really can not recall that I have done this, so now the V.P. thinks that Im complaining.
Now...Can anyone tell me, what would make a person be so selfish that they would say something that could jeopardize someone else's job. A single mom w/ a 5 yr old to raise, that's the job in jeopardy. Why???
Let's just say that I will not be saying a word to anyone in my office, unless it is a direct question about my job, I'm going to just stay in my little hole and start listening to everyone around me. See if maybe I can find out who this person is.
It's sad that people today have to be so mean and hateful to make themselves feel better. Like they have done some great deed in pointing out someone's weakness'
YEA to those who thrive on that!!! Something I can not even begin to understand.